Examples of Recovery International Practice
The following are examples of the Recovery International four-part examples. These demonstrate how the proper practice of the Recovery International Method and are what you would hear at a self-help group.
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As I approached the pump at the gas station, another car was pulling up to the same pump in the opposite direction. The other driver was irritated and raised his fist at me—he obviously thought he had the right to be there, not me. This is when I began to work myself up.
I had head pressure, palpitations, confusion and felt like crying. I thought, “Who does he think he is?”
Immediately I began to spot. Actually, I intuitively used the insincere gesture of friendliness instead of the sincere gesture of hostility. I waved the gentleman in, as I drove to another pump. I spotted my angry temper and excused rather than accused. This situation was a triviality and I had an average original response. I could not control my outer environment, but I could control my inner environment.
As I was pumping gas into my car I found myself smiling as I recalled how I would have reacted before my Recovery training. I would have driven over to another pump but I would have berated myself for being a coward and not “standing up for myself.” I may not have expressed my temper outwardly but would have kept a vicious cycle of fear and anger alive inside of me. I would have continued to judge the man wrong and myself wrong. This would have led to lowered feelings, low self-esteem and withdrawing from everyone and everything.
Doing What You Fear To Do
Last week I made plans to meet someone for dinner on Wednesday evening. On Tuesday as I thought about my plans, I felt like I didn’t want to go out and started to work myself up.
I felt sick, tense, nervous, shaky, and was trembling inside. I thought if I did go out, the other person would notice the way I felt and reject me. I thought it would be better if I just stayed home.
I spotted that I could do the thing I feared to do, and not give outer expression to my inner experiences. If I happen to be nervous, so what? It’s average, and I’m not wrong. So I moved my muscles against my fear and went out on the date. It turned out to be one of the nicest evenings I’ve had in a long time. By the time the evening was over, I was completely unaware of any symptoms because they were gone. My muscles re-educated my brain that there was no danger.
Before I attended Recovery, I would have given in to the symptoms, called and asked for a rain check. I would have stayed home and sabotaged by wallowing in self-pity and the philosophy of “I can’t!” I would have had fearful anticipation about ever collecting the rain check, and felt that I was hopeless.